The Missing Tile Syndrome

Well , It's been a long time folks since my last blog post. And I'm Back this time with a interesting  and unique topic The Missing Tile Syndrome . I found it as a common issue of today and I literally want you guys to know how to tackle this problem (syndrome ) . It's basically a collection of symptoms which one exhibits in this psychological state and in the worst case it can lead to depression and even unlawful activities. So it became really important to pen down some lines on it.
Stick with me to the end  I hope I can deliver you something precious and worth reading content .

     IMAGE COURTESY:ADOBE SPARK

WHAT DO YOU MEAN BY MISSING TILE SYNDROME ?

It simply means focussing on the things which we don't have instead of focussing on what we already have thus robbing our self from happiness and contentment.

Consider yourself sitting in a newly built room , you admire the beauty of the designs , flooring , ceilings .And while you are admiring all of a sudden you observed a tile missing on the ceiling .
What would be your reaction at that moment ? What would you concentrate your visions on ?

Now on wards despite of all the beauty of the ceiling you won't be able to fully enjoy the beauty because of that one missing tile . So you need to fix the issue at the earliest so that it wont be able to spoil the beauty and show of the room anymore . So now you have the perfect ceiling after fixing .

The above accurate and precise example was given by Mr. Dennis Prager and presented the situation in a very self explanatory way. In fact he is the one who coined the term The Missing Tile Syndrome. 

In our lives all of us have something or the other which we don't have. Those are missing tiles of our life . That can be anything you have a deep longing for may be any skills or positions or some gadgets or a adventure and can be anything . But let me tell you no matter how hard you try you can never put , fix , replace all the tiles of your life . The missing tile of the ceiling can easily be fixed and it will look perfect again . But unfortunately there is nothing called a PERFECT LIFE . We must remind our self we are humans and we can never be perfect . Instead we should enjoy our imperfections and anomalies like a boss . Remember Life is a one time gift by god don't misuse it by regrets and jealousness , hopelessness , make it worth spending .

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We perform the same chores everyday . Each day is just a replica of the previous one . But in between somewhere we fall in the trap of Missing Tile Syndrome . Have you ever found yourself saying like "oh! I wish I were........." , "I wish if I can ............" etc. The answers can be many like I wish I were this smart , I wish I were this thin or handsome , I wish if I can travel to some foreign location etc. I am quite sure everyone of us passed through this situations right ? Yes! those are our missing tiles.

But Don't worry its all a part of the survival mechanism . Every individual have a inborn tendency to focus on the missing tiles rather on the tiles already present which is a psychological mechanism . If you see the other way around this tendency is beneficial in the sense ,  its helping us to improve , upgrade , evolve , develop into the best version of our self , making us to do the stuffs necessary for accomplishing goals , dreams ,wishes . But this tendency should essentially have a limitation or boundary . Focussing in these missing tiles is absolutely fine as long as the goals or wishes is within your reach  in simple words foucssing on some unrealistic goals can buy you only sadness and despair . That's only the goal of this post to make you aware of your missing tiles and to deal with them without losing hope .

Also see Chasing your goals and dreams will be never this easy.

If I say it in the other way it will be like first identify your missing tiles and then make some choices , then either work to get what's missing (if that's possible and within your reach) , or forget whats missing (if you want something unrealistic and beyond your reach) , or replace whats missing with a substitute.

Make a note of the things you wanted , categorize them into whether achievable or not , be purely realistic while making this choice . Then design your actions accordingly . Don't lose hope if you cant achieve something because there's lot other stuffs you can work on . Focus on them , work on them . Remember , there are plenty of things you can do well than others . In a nutshell don't just get struck in one thing maximize your visions and see the things you can work on instead of focussing on the missing tiles(the ones which cant be achieved).

      IMAGE COURTESY:ADOBE SPARK

How To Overcome Missing Tile Syndrome ?

01. AVOID COVETOUSNESS:

            The first and foremost thing is to avoiding covetousness . So now what is covetousness ? It is the envious eagerness to possess something which specifically belongs to others . Technically , its just the trick of mind or can be few personality traits that can be easily fixed . But sometimes the desire to have something can be so so strong that it becomes a unhealthy obsession which can make you do even sinful works like stealing , lying etc. Your covet is insatiable to be honest it's a self-repetitive process .

02. BE THANKFUL :

       Be thankful to everyone you meet. Being thankful to people is really awesome trust me , it prevents you from being bitter and cold to those who helps you , grows you , supports you , laughs with you .
Remember in this life we will not have everything but God makes sure we have always something to live with.
Choose to be thankful and enjoy the warmth , love of relationships.

03. BE CONTENT:

       See nobody can teach to how to remain content . It's something which should come from inner within . It's a mental state of mind that tells you nothing in this world is owned by us . We're just the tenants and the caretakers . Contentment helps you to avoid looking at what's missing in your life , but rather focussing on the things that you have (the tiles already present) . Contentment never meant that you should stop improving yourself and be content with what you are no that's not what it is . It basically means to remain fulfilled with what you can achieve with your best , with your 100% so that there's no scope of regret later on .

Some Youtube Links on this topic  which I found as useful are.....
PragerU , Safalta Videos(hindi content) 

For any questions , write them down on the comments below......

Alternatively you may like my other posts:  
How to be a topper guranteed steps , 

Why you shouldn't fall in love before 20's ? ,

Chasing your goals will be never this easy

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I hope I succeeded in making you understand The Missing Tile Syndrome . Always remember the steps ahead , it will surely help you in making right choices  .