8 Reasons Why You shouldn't Fall in love before 20's??

I passed really a hard time actually to write a blog post on such topic which is the most debated topic across the social medias like Facebook , Reddit , Instagram  captioning With  "What is the right age to fall in Love? ". So I just decided Why not  to write  a post on this which gives 8 Reasons Why You shouldn't fall in love before 20's and clarify this concept and give a perspective on relationship issues occurs in teenage . Well , To be honest I would not sell you bullshits and waste your time telling you few scripted lines from the failed love stories or from a script from a failed lover but rather I will give you a different perspective which will definitely help you to think logically next time when you see someone beautiful and attractive. So stick With me.

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Q.What Is love ??
A Different view

First of all I want you to sit back and think for 2 mins before  proceeding "What according to You is Love ? How do you define Love?  How much do you think love is necessary? " Answering These Questions will reveal you in front of yourself like a crystal clear mirror. The Answer can go on like love is staring and  gazing at someones for hours on an end , Hanging out with that  special ones , Becoming the best rather best est. companion of each other , Sharing all ups and downs , Without whom every step would be difficult and bla bla bla and has no end and the definition is very much subject to change from individual to individual . 

"Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.” 

~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry 

The line is very much true in this context I will tell you why . What you as a teenager thinking of love is your temporary Infatuation or it may be long term again its relative . Trust me Its just the hormones screwing up with your mind which convincing you to have a partner , to find a soulmate .But trust me before a 20-21 yrs this inner urges should be ignored . Because we as a social being has a innate want to multiply to take forward the generation. But you have to understand my friend it's no longer the ancient times .....we're civilized being now ....our competition today is with times , deadlines ....we have a dream ......we have goal ....we have aspirations to live for...we have to prove the very point of our existence right?? So how can we afford that??

By this I Don't wanna mean stop making love , Stay single Forever . Yes definitely you have the full right and freedom to love but at right time and at right age more precisely . Love then when you have finished conquering the world ...then when you finished achieving your dream....then when you have destroyed the competition ahead of you . The post can be bit lengthy but hold on your time will be worth spending here I guarantee.
See many of you can argue that you have loved at a very young age and it is still working out . But this population is rare . This post is targeted towards the young generation and today's youth waiting for love or in love. Because "Prevention is better than cure".   

THE 10 REASONS WHY YOU SHOULDN'T -

01 of 8 Affects Career |  

 Its is not obvious why this came to point 1. Well ... You might feel I am joking but trust me its True. You can Question me "How??" Well I have the answer. The time You will be spending with him/her remains to be unproductive and unfruitful indirectly which leaves a deep impact on your career which you are unaware of .That time if you would have gone for some skills or any other stuffs which pushes  you ,  forces you to grow your future self will be benefited . Ask yourself "Is it More important Than your dreams??" If "YES" than continue on the path no issues . If  " NO " welcome to the 1% club. Every other person is doing the same thing My friend...Don't Dare to follow them unless You want to screw your life.
I have separate post on 8 steps to success Read it here Chasing Your Goals will be never this easy

02 of 8: Takes Away Focus |

 It takes 1/5th of a second for the human brain to like someone leads to  the release of  neurotransmitters like Dopamine , Adrenaline , Serotonin and vasopressin . 
12  Different areas of Brain gets stimulated when looking or thinking about the loved one . These sudden Dopamine surge instantly boosts the mood and make us more addicted to continue to think about our beloved one rather fantasize about them which definitely sufficient for puzzling up the mind and lose of focus with which you started your day . 
I hope many of you can relate this situation right?? Well , several times I too had a similar feelings but what kept me from all these bullshits is the inner urge to destroy my goals and achieve my dreams.

References: BBC.CO

03 of 8: A Continuous Source of Distraction |

 We as a living beings are too much selfish and self centered .Yes You heard it right "Selfish" its in our gene code we can't help it . Accept the fact that your loved ones are no exception . Life is a business my friend and most of us would like to invest somewhere where we can get best return.
People will come and go , cross your life momentarily but the best one will stay forever . The choice of the best is the sole reason behind the dysfunctionality of  relationship . The maturity to be prudent to be able to calculate future steps comes only after 20 yrs on average. The intelligence to see through the hypocrisy of both the gender comes only at 20 through a series of observation , inference and experience , definitely not before that. And that relationship after 20 is most likely to stay forever until death.   

04 of 8: Depression and health Issues |

How much  love sustains (in the long-term) depends on the level of trust, compatibility and understanding b/w lovers and maturity, patience and perseverance to work things out. The more you indulge in it the more you will start to care about the other person  and a genuine care and concern to look after the comfort of other person more than You care about Yours. 
In simple words we get attached psychologically ..And give our control in the hand of some stranger (beloved ones). Now every ups and downs of them will certainly have a deep impact on our own lives. People are so impulsive these days that at the first sight of any discomfort , incompatibility , trouble they left because they have choices . So this sudden detachment is unacceptable to the mind and causes intense pain and which is quite difficult to endure at tender ages and guys becomes victim of addictions. And if you let the pain engulf you it can change the whole hormonal balance  . But which mayn't be the case if you are above 20 or 21 you will have a strong mindset then and can handle the stress more carefully.

05 of 8:Emotional  Insecurity |

 This is such an issue I think no relationship is free from.Simply explained, emotional insecurity refers to the instability of a person’s emotional state. Possible triggers of this perceived threats or vulnerability.
if You see technically  any insecurity is basically a fear...And in this case fear of losing the special one.It’s worry about jeopardizing the status of a relationship. I hope you may often find yourself checking your partner's  phone or using phone spying tools right? You'll not miss an opportunity to check her social media accounts if got one.So basically you are insecure my friend. I will not elaborate other symptoms as this post's intention is to make you aware of the happenings.

06 of 8: Dealing With Insecurity |

Now it's indeed a hard task for a young pairs to deal with it. See relationship is like any other job but without wages at the end of month. You need to constantly monitor 24*7*365 on your partner to ensure nobody can pick them up from your bondage .
So basically what conclusions you are making? You don't trust them right .That's why there is a urgency of monitoring. This bullshits of monitoring , checking status , contacts can really mess you up and cause emotional imbalance and will make you far away from achieving your goals and dreams(if you have one) . This bullshits will end soon trust me and be long forgotten by you as just an instance of your life but due to the amount of time you wasted engaging into this shits you will end up ruining your career. 
If you don't have trust on me ask anyone who have been dumped by their loved ones for better opportunities to achieve their dreams. We're selfish being remember and self love is the greatest.

07 of 8: Mental stability and Serenity |

As far as relationship at young age is concerned it has the potential ability to distort your mental peace and happiness. You will often get too anxious or sometimes depressed in every ups and downs of your beloved ones because you are psychologically attached now . Just tell me how it is not affecting your peace , calmness , focus and concentration? 
On contrast , you will not be much affected by these disturbances at 22 because you will be backed up by either academic success  or financial support for which you have grind(struggled) at 18.Do you get the difference now??
I know you can declare a war , can crack any damn exam , destroy any competition once you get an affirmation and validation from your partner . So why don't you do the same for yourself . Grow up my friend its high time that you should take the control 

08 of 8:Lose of self Dependency |

Lastly , You have given your control in the hand of some stranger so definitely you'll be hurt. Now your happiness , sadness , mental peace will be controlled not by you . You will lose your ability to make yourself happy by your own actions . You will always be engaged to make your other half happy as its your ultimate goal in life as it is the very point of your existence in the world.
Once your ability to entertain gets over you'll be dumped in no time in most of the cases. Nobody dislikes free entertainment . This is the basis of your relationship .Life's a business my friend . 
That's why I told you to make wiser choices which requires some retrospection to find your compatibility requires observations , inferences and experiences which is only possible roughly after your 20's. 

References: SPRING.ORG.UK

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Other Reference: psychologytoday.com

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